Yesterday (Thursday, July 11, 2013) I was leaving work with two jackets in my hand, about to cross the street to meet my parents who were waiting for me down the road. I had just gotten them altered and picked them up from the tailor during my lunch time. They were in the plastic covering and this gave the appearance that they were new suits I suppose. One of my coworkers who was standing at the gate with two others, saw the jackets and asked if I just got a new suit for a wedding; MY wedding to be exact, with a big grin on his face. Mi look like mi ready fi married? :s
He’s a cool guy still; we don’t talk much, mostly ’cause he’s quiet, but we always hail each other and we have a decent working relationship. For some reason he was quite interested in this little faux development in my life. I told him no, I wasn’t going to a wedding, nor MY wedding (any time soon at least), and informed him I was merely bringing the jackets from the tailor. I went as far as to add that I couldn’t be getting married because “mi haffi find a ooman first!” with a laugh. Who tell mi fi guh seh dat? Rahtid!
About a month or so earlier, he saw me with a lady friend of mine in Half-Way-Tree, one to whom I even introduced him, y’know, seeing that I’m polite and all.
Bredrin! The man start laugh and ask how mi suh lie, ’cause him see me wid ooman a Half-Way-Tree. I couldn’t help but laugh too and assure him that the person he saw was only a good female friend of mine.
TOTALLY devoid or unconcerned of the two summer workers beside him (who happened to be girls), the man just blurted out, with grin fully intact:
|A dog doing as a dog does… Marking territory.|
Now, I thought about it a little, and I was like “Wow. Is this really the society I live in?” Is this really how most of my contemporaries think these days, that the aim of talking to girls is just to have sex? Bwoy, I don’t know about you, but that’s a pretty sad reality to me. Here is a society, not isolated to only Jamaica, where it is expected that you’re just supposed to have sex–lots of it, with lots of girls–before you’re married, and that’s the norm.